If you are new to being a bridesmaid, or if you are not confident you have been the best you can be Intertwined Events and Becky Hill Photography have some tips and tricks to help you become an all-star bridesmaid!
Golden Rule: Shut up, smile, and wear whatever dress the bride’s heart desires! We’re kidding…but only partially! The trick to being an amazing bridesmaid is to acknowledge what an honor it is to be chosen to be by the side of the bride-to-be in the biggest time in her life. Being a great bridesmaid may be a daunting task, but the bride will never forget that you were there in her time of need to help sooth her nerves and stresses and celebrate the joy and love!
Powerhouse bridesmaids have to be VERY flexible with their schedules; whether the bride wants your input on flowers, décor, dresses, makeup, hair, or shoes you should be available for various appointments and shopping trips. As bridesmaid, if you can offer to take over even one planning aspect of the wedding it can be extremely helpful, but once you take it on, you must see it all the way to completion and respect the wants and tastes of the bride (which may not be your own!). Assisting in the little stuff can make a huge difference, too; ask the bride when the wedding invitations are arriving, and plan an addressing and stamping ‘party’ to get the job done in an efficient and fun manner! Also, picking up some last minute errands can be a nice way to relieve the bride’s stress.
The day of the wedding, be sure to offer the bride staples throughout the event, snacks, beverages, lip gloss, a chance to escape to the bathroom for a minute to laugh and breathe! This will ensure a relaxed and happy bride (and friend!). Also, if you see something that needs to be done, ask and then handle; this shows the bride she can count on you to honor her wishes and to help make it come true!
A killer bridesmaid will make sure that the bride is able to have a second alone before she takes her trip down the aisle so that she is able to calm down and de-stress! During the wedding, know what the bride is drinking, and replenish her glass, because it is very rare that she will be able to make it all the way to the bar! Also, have fun and be social during the reception; that way the bride does not have to worry that you are having a good time! (Yes, we are giving you permission to dance with the cute groomsmen you have been eyeing since the engagement party!!)
After the wedding, make last minute checks to ensure that the bride and bridal party did not leave anything behind or under a table!
Lastly, have fun! Enjoy and celebrate in your friend’s happiness – that is all she wants and more!
Through being a supportive and helpful bridesmaid, you are honoring your friendship with the bride – the entire reason she chose you to be one of the women that stood by her as witness to her most important commitment and milestone in life thus far! WOW!
Let us know if you have questions or concerns – we are here to help and know you will be great!
xoxo,
The Ladies of Intertwined Events & Becky Hill Photography
Picking your bridal party can be a very stressful experience with so many questions: Who do I pick, How do I not hurt people’s feelings, and How do I decide between my friends?! Well Intertwined and Becky Hill Photography have some tricks and tips to help lessen the stressful experience and help you pick your best bridal party!
2) Number – decide on the number you want for your bridal party. You must keep in mind the size of your wedding! If you are having a small wedding, you do not want to have an over-the-top bridal party – the more is not the merrier! A rule of thumb is 1 bridesmaid for every 50 guest; while you do not have to follow this entirely, it is good to keep in mind when deciding on the number!
3) Blood – if you are close with your sisters or future sister-in-law, this probably never crossed your mind, but you should almost always include family – it is just not worth the future conflict or discord that it might bring about.
4) Returned Invitations – you do not have to return the invitation. If someone asked you to be in their bridal party, it does not automatically mean that they have to be in yours also!
5) To Do – how much do you expect of your bridal party? If you simply want them for moral support, you do not need to worry about their locations. However, if you are expecting them to be helping you with the little details, you will want to choose women who are close in location to you.
6) Finances – you should always take into consideration the financial obligations that will be placed on your bridal party. Being a bridesmaid can be expensive, so do not demand that your friend be one if you know she is in a bind with money. On the other hand, you should never count someone out just because of their financial situation; if they are someone that you would like to be in your bridal party, extend the invitations and let them know that you understand if they cannot financially participate.
7) Guys – men are now acceptable in the bridal party; so, if you have a best guy-friend or brother – don’t leave him out he can stand with the girls – and will probably enjoy that!
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